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The Help-Meet Series: She Loves

Posted By: TheCounselor™          In: Marriage, Family & Relationships          1189 Views         (Jul 24, 2017)

 The Help-Meet Series: She Loves

She loves indeed, not just in words but also in actions. Many of us love in words by saying ‘I love you’ at every opportunity we have to tell others but we rarely love in actions and in truth. 1John 4:8 God is love, and we are the children of the Most High God which makes us love also. He is God and we are gods. Ps. 62 we are His offspring and this makes us exactly like Him. 1 John 4:17 as he is so are we in this world, also the Love of God has been shed abroad in our heart by the Holy Spirit within us. This makes us offspring and carrier of the God-kind of love.

Also, Galatians 5, the fruit of the spirit in us has made it possible for us to be love personified. All this is to show  that we have the seed and fruit of love in us already and all we have to do with it is to bring out the best of it and the life in it. God has deposited some precious things in us to make living and family life easy for us all. 2 peter 1:3 says “for his divine power has given us all things that pertains to life and Godliness.”  We shouldn’t claim ignorant of this and live life like we don’t know or are not aware of all He has blessed us with; all these, that we may live a peaceable life and live life abundantly.

We shouldn’t be in the habit of loving every other person, forgiving every other person and being a blessing to every other person apart from our spouses. You can claim ‘that’s impossible, I love my husband very much’ but this may be impossible in your words apart from your actions towards him. You claim you can forgive everyone aside husband, in your mind, because he is close to you. You claim you can forgive anything anyone did aside that which your husband did because he did it and in your own definition because he is your husband and you love him. If that is your definition of love, then you are totally wrong because that is not the God-kind of love. You feel the one closest to you should be the one to suffer your terrible behaviors’ and all other persons should see your fine and pleasant attitudes. NO woman! Love isn’t like that.

Learn Love From The Master And Creator Of Love Himself, GOD.

God is love, which means God=love and Love= God. If you say you love your husband, this means you ‘God’ your husband and which also means, you are as ‘God is’ to my husband. It also means the way God will behave and relate with your husband in love is the way you will also relate and behave to your husband. This is also because as He is so are we in this world (this does not leave love out). As He is, ‘the God of love’, so are you ‘the god of love’ your name and who you are should also be = Love.  You are an offspring of love, this makes you love personified.

Therefore, the way God will accept your husband irrespective of his flaws and failings is the way you should accept him also irrespective of his flaws and failings. That’s who you have been called to be as the help suited for your husband. You have been called into the Life and Ministry of Love. Am not sure you can totally fulfill your Ministry as a woman without this very important fruit of the spirit being manifested in you.

The same way God will forgive your husband and forget his wrongs is the same way you should forgive him of his failings and forget it, presenting him as one that has never done that unfavorable thing in the presence of other and not just in the presence of others, but also in your heart also relating with him in like manner as though he had never sinned. Col 3: 13 says “Be gentle and forbearing with one another and, if one has a difference (a grievance or complaint) against another, readily pardoning each other; even as the Lord has [freely] forgiven you, so must you also [forgive].” 

In case you are saying “I will make him pay for what he has done” how many things have you done that God made you pay for? Love as God’s true daughter. In Matt 18:21, Christ admonished us to forgive 70 * 7 times. Can someone even offend you in that number of time? Even if it were possible, choose to forgive him in the same way and manner. This is the kind of love God is calling us all to. Love like no other. Love that has nothing to do with what the person has done for you. You look beyond the person’s unpleasantness and go all the way to love him. Love like the bible declares it in 1 Cor. 13.

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2.0pt">The kind of love that has submission, honor and meekness trapped inside it, with this kind of love, it won’t be difficult to honor and submit to your husband. The kind of love in 1pet 3, that wins men over not just by word of mouth but by actions just as we know that love is more of an action word. The kind of love that is not about the outward beauty but has to do with the beauty of the spirit and that of the heart, that of a gentle and quiet spirit which is precious in the sight of God. Do you really want to do that which will please the lord and that which is precious in his sight? Then, love truly.

It’s not enough to confess your love for your husband, love him indeed and in truth. Rom 12: 9-10 don’t just pretend to love others, really love them. Hate what is wrong. Hold tightly to what is good. Love each other with genuine affection and take delight in honoring each other. Here, God’s word is saying to love with genuine affection, don’t just love with your words, love with actions. Don’t pretend to love, love indeed by your actions. For example, your husband wronged you, he did something you didn’t like, instead of fussing over it all day or evening and making it affect your mood and disposition towards him, choose to forgive easily and fast, lovingly telling him what he did wrong and live pass it and enjoy the rest of the day or evening. 

At times, wisdom demands you don’t even tell him and you forget about it forgiving in advance. Aren’t you human also? Don’t you wrong others? Why have you made yourself the lion of the tribe of your house that people will be scared of and not want to step on his/her toes. Scriptures didn’t say love everyone aside those close to you or love everyone except your husband, show your husband your true color but show others your fine and love color. Oh no sister, Love affectionately. Choose to love, make it deliberate.

Remember, it’s Not My Instruction, It’s Gods And He Wouldn’t Ask You To Do Something You Cannot Do.

God’s love according to 1st Corinthians 13; Here is measuring yourself according to God’s love. 1 Cor. 13:4 Love endures long and is patient and kind. You may endure long, but are you patient and kind while enduring? Do you always inform your spouse of how long you are enduring him/her? Do you remind him/her how much you are putting up with his/ her shortcomings? Are you truly patient and kind?

1 Cor. 13:4 it is not rude (unmannerly) and does not act unbecomingly. Love (God's love in us) does not insist on its own rights or its own way, for it is not self-seeking; it is not touchy or fretful or resentful; it takes no account of the evil done to it [it pays no attention to a suffered wrong].

Here, love is not selfish, it does not think of its own way or rights, it puts the other person’s interest first at all times above itself. Love takes no account of the evil done to it which means it forgives easily, it’s a conscious effort, and you decide not to take account. Not as though you didn’t feel it or you weren’t hurt but love always chooses to forgive and forget not taking account of suffered wrongs. That’s the life of love. You will find out that you even end up living peaceably with yourself and with others when you live the love life.

Are you that touchy, resentful and fretful person that people can’t be free around you? People are even scared of you. That’s not walking in love, you shout at everything and everyone and little things get you touchy. That’s not the God kind of love.

Love Is The Bedrock Of It All!

Study 1 Cor. 13 in all translations and measure your life according to God’s Love thermometer and decide to consciously live a life full of love for God and people. Don’t just claim you love, check your life indeed, watch it closely. 1 Tim 4:15-16 put these abilities to work; throw yourself into your tasks so that everyone may notice your improvement and progress. 16 Keep a close watch on all you do and think. Stay true to what is right and God will bless you and use you to help others. TLB


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